Sincere,logical and wise people,a genuine asset in one’s life
August 18, 2011 4 Comments
Human a social creature needs company of alike mind fellows in the form of friends and companion sometimes to share their joys, sorrows or to take guidance in difficult times. Mankind cannot live alone, every individual must live and interact with others.Good companionship, choosing and having good companions is extremely important for many reasons and from many aspects. Much part of our lives is spent in interaction with others. Befriending righteous and virtuous person is an essential means for staying in the content mode as having good company is some kind of drain of frustration of hardships of life .More the individuals are able to get strong, sincere and wise friends in his /her social circle, it would be more comfortable for him/her to counter the difficult situation of life.
Friends are some kind of those people in our surroundings who feel for their companions, in both happy and sad moments. If we try to trust or share our feelings and problems with the wrong-doers whose actions are worthless and based on risky and uncertain attitude there are chances that we can follow them in same ways and standards as they are. Affection which results from acts of kindness and passion indeed help the people to develop love and closeness between two or among many friends. Mixing with followers for some social pleasures , for sake of guidance and help can appear as a clear change in one’s behavior, morals and conduct.
This way one society is able to produce a core of a strong community, something that people should always strive in the form of effective social circle.That is why Islam always talk about brotherhood and its importance , focusing better way of communication and help to each other.On the other hand western societies due to broken family circles and weak social bonds rely on state community services where trained people are recruited for this job to give assistance to other fellow beings.So both actions are same but one is dependent on nature of individuals and other is on the quality of state services.But one thing is common behind this kind of social need is that it should be based on sincerity and wisdom.Those people who eventually come in friendship circle or qualify for such jobs are usually put in two categories:
Either they are good individuals who guide and encourage friends or people toward what is correct difference between good and bad or those fellows who take the person toward wrong side by misusing their weak areas of life.So it is very important to select a proper person in our circle of social acquaintance.
In an authentic Hadith, the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said: “A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend.”
Hazrat Ali (AS) said: “Mix with the noble people, you become one of them; and keep away from evil people to protect yourself from their evils.
Ibn Hazm said: “Anyone who criticizes you cares about your friendship. Anyone who makes light of your faults cares nothing about you.
For picking people on the basis of their sincerity level is more worth than following them on the basis of their temporary social status. The materialistic person , whether living in western or eastern society finds difficult to have a true, sincere friend in his own society on whom to bestow his love and affection.His/her choice of selecting typical company fluctuates with the demand of conditions he yearns for his success .
Good friendship always integrate human values in the way of affection,compassion and divide griefs and sorrows True companions are those who are there for us unconditionally where all other turn their faces. Never look for our weaknesses, but always offer support no matter what the circumstances are coming ahead.
Good parenting/partnership or brought up of child in positive environment itself makes person to find the right friends in his/her social circle but sometimes it is achieved on trial and error process or in some cases accidentally we meet the right persons of our lives.It should be considered as heavenly gift,perhaps as return of our good and sincere deeds which we unconditionally offers to others come in our way .Positive attitude always give way to genuine persons to attracts toward positive mindsets and this way one is able to get the reward of loving, caring and dignified kind of living in this mean and materialistic world too.