Quiet understanding is quite enough for good relationship.


In building relationship people  should think more of compatible partnership instead of relying on  power of dominance or possessiveness.Choosy nature of partners, having superiority complex on particular habit, if and buts or any kind of arrogant temperament,might give temporary  attractions  to  influence  each other but on the long-term relationships it appears as  forced relation which has a capacity to break  or twisted with passage of time  ,depending on bearing capacity of other partner.

Ideal partnership is like interweaving of interests of both, and little compromises for sake of happiness  and all ultimately  bring win-win game in couple’s life if both will  have even little intention of  home making. Security of faithfulness and contentment of conscious  in any relation itself gives shape to free ,but mutual relationship and each coming day  brings more dependability on each other.There are no short cuts in building trustworthy relationship.No intimate, virtual  and emotional relationship can be developed  between two persons without having some genuine differences and conflicts from time to time.Understanding and tolerance are the utmost requirement to overcome responsive feelings of  anger, suspicion and some time jealousy too.

‘Give and take” law simply exists in all  relations to show dependability level on each other but sometimes”giving more” brings dramatic changes in building human relation as other person becomes addicted of this giving mode .He or she  naturally becomes attach to donors of care and love which are  all time requirement of human soul and body.We can’t follow the imaginary love patterns  because  humans need the presentation of  secured feelings and quality of relationships to overcome life troubles and struggles.So if we go deeply in secret of long time relationship then its success is found in the compatibility of nature and not relied on finding the ideal person of standard qualities. Long-term relations are also independent of  short-lived demands and materialistic attractions There should be no pretensions and higher expectations other than sincerity and good intentions before setting any foundation of any relationship.

Foreign interferences like social pressures, alignment of  many relationships all together and keeping them in satisfactory mode is not an easy task and some time creates unnecessary complications for near and dear ones but here sincerity and quiet  understanding play major role of maintaining an invisible bonding in dual and multiple relationships .It  would show its durability in time of difficulties.

High demands, creating liabilities  or both can unsweetened this cocktail of  developing sentiments and sooner or later one would feel like bonded labor of  forced love life.

On the other hand in healthy relationship, a partner must not always try to get things his or her way. There must be only one path to be taken by both, it might be uneven, bumpy and sometimes difficult, but there is always a “mutual path”. Mutual understanding therefore is the basic unit  of a relationship. To enhance this mutual understating  Good  and positive Communication are the best tools for  understanding each other.

Communication is like an oxygen that needs to survive but bad way of communication can be reason of  suffocation that might be appeared  in the form of choking or anemic kind of attachment .In  such cases, relationship  can be collapsed by any kind of intrusions or small misunderstandings which are normal arrivals in any kind of alliance .A person having good communication skills usually  in better position of showing maturity and self-confidence .Better way of  communication or quiet synchronized understanding  are right choices one should  share to bring  best stuff in lively lifestyles.

To reach such kind of  mutual understanding couples  surely have petty quarrels, little misunderstandings to judge the break even point of partner  but it is all part of natural growth of relationships that one has to face uneven and harsh attitude before coming to smooth and mature way of living. Actually it is true friendship or any solid relationship which nurtures under difficult and rigid  situations in much stronger  way than normal way of glamorous  attraction for people.

We have to live with faults as well as virtues of our love ones and one should accept the facts no one including ourselves are not perfect.Strong arrangements based on deep but some kind of silent understanding remains  smooth in ups and downs of life, giving us support and happiness in hard times to lighten up the load of life we have to carry .

So we can say  silent understanding is some kind of  a relation of affinity or harmony between people; whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other, and the two of them  always enclosed in close sympathy for each other.

Mutual relationship,  based on love and friendship  consists of quiet understanding, confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad. It is settling for less than perfection, and  creating allowances for human weaknesses. It is being content with the present, hopeful for the future, and not worry over the past miseries. It’s the  daily job list of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and the working towards common goals.

Quote: One’s dignity does not measured by how many words are spoken, but by how many words are not spoken.

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7 Responses to Quiet understanding is quite enough for good relationship.

  1. Johanna says:

    Goodness you’ve got immense knowledge and maturity towards relationships . Your thoughts and writing style emits your understanding and wisdom . True, communication is the oxygen for a relationship to survive forever. Without it , it can become suffocating. Well I have seen women are more sensitive and understanding but men are just the opposite , they stop caring once they know they have won over their woman’s hearts. This kind of take for granted attitude is what annoys women and makes the relationship bitter. I am telling this because most of my female friends complain about their boyfriends and hubbies for behaving like said.
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  2. Johanna says:

    Goodness you’ve got immense knowledge and maturity towards relationships . Your thoughts and writing style emits your understanding and wisdom . True, communication is the oxygen for a relationship to survive forever. Without it , it can become suffocating. Well I have seen women are more sensitive and understanding but men are just the opposite , they stop caring once they know they have won over their woman’s hearts. This kind of take for granted attitude is what annoys women and makes the relationship bitter. I am telling this because most of my female friends complain about their boyfriends and hubbies for behaving like said.
    Unwanted Partner in your Partnership
    Has criticism & contempt become the unwanted partners in your partnership?
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    • Ahmed says:

      Pakistani ladies remain silent for few moments.
      U should review your comments. Ladies are used of pressurised relationship.Always want to keep men instate of pressure. Men try to escape from this pressures and always in chase of free and part time affairs.Quiet understanding type agreement doesn’t exist in Pakistani culture. Extended family system is basic reason of messy , noisy and froced kind of relationships.

      • Nazia says:

        Unrequited love claims to be love but it is not, it eats our insides and makes us feel depressed, lost and suicidal if we cant hold it as our precious possession.One experience feelings of sadness, hopelessness and pain everyday/night while thinking of losing it or not allowing that person to love any other relationships in his/her life.
        So dont be afraid of quality of talkative lady but afraid of foolishness of ladies that might create problems in love life.

  3. Nazia says:

    Here I cant fully agree with you as I commonly found that woman after sometime of partnership set high demands from their partners without contributing lively and unconditional gestures in partner’s life.Possessiveness become more dominating feature than loving so it starts the game of master slave in any any courtships or married relationships.Courtships are quite weak link so sooner it breaks if equal shares of sentiment and responsibility are not fulfilled and in bonded marriages, same due to pressure of children or family it is tried to be dragged for some period but get an early break when ever any partner gets support of of third party interference.In weak moments it is said that one is even ready to trust or want to get support of donkeys so lot of maturity is required in breaking and building the relationships.
    Both men and women get annoyed on matter of negligence their demands or presence so one should focus on spending lively and quality time with each other instead of behaving like Cobra of treasure in companionship.
    At least I have very different experience what you are saying about people living around you.I think more the time is passed after taking bumps and dives, couples come closer to each other and even not tolerated any kind of third party interference in their mutual understanding.

  4. Farah says:

    Human nature produces demand and quality of understanding.
    For introverts this quiet understanding might works but for extroverted behavior it s simply a manifestation of the way an extrovert interacts and understandings with the people and are interested in and concerned with the people.They enjoy social situations and even seek them out since they enjoy being around people. Their ability to make small or more talks makes them appear to be more socially adept than introverts or messy people.

    • Nazia says:

      Actually as the time is passing or due to difficult situation in Pakistan, I am now in favor of quiet understanding at least at home and its inhabitants.Messy dealing hot arguments are not left affordable option after seeing such an chaos in our surrounding.Quiet understandings not important in amiable affairs but it is very effective for people who hurt you or try to create problems for you.I think time is best decision maker and if you are right by principles, rules or by faith, then it would naturally comes to its shape.Other wise, quarrels, hot arguments, dirty politics its all ruin the little life we have in difficult country like Pakistan.

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