Assigned and mandatory task of caregivers
April 1, 2011 5 Comments
Taking care of my bedridden mother for more than five years was one of blessed opportunity God bestowed me, a challenging job to qualify little as real kith and kin of my high rated human relation of this world.My throughout involvement in improving her health and living condition is some kind of my virtual training and as order of Almighty to handle the most precious relation with love and care.
If my mother has left me without any kind of prolong sickness and helplessness state as she had , I never realized how strongly we were attached together in natural bond of affection.She and my God had given me and her other children best opportunity to prove that we are her real care-givers.
Taking care of bedridden love ones is not an easy task but once you realize that by happening this to your love one should immediately change life patterns of patient and themselves too for handling this difficult situation. What I felt at that moment was that actually God was starting testing our will power, level of affection and intensity of dutiful nature in our conscience through physical and mental exertion .
This is best time to show the credibility of blood relations which is strong natural bonding force between human relations along-with genuine practical demonstration for our next generation to carry on this legacy of care givers for us too.
Through personal experience I strongly feel that such kind of naturally assigned duty helps a lot to transform an immature, irresponsible and care free person into most mature intimate relation of the world.
Modern development in health science has given lot of privileges to give as much comfort to your dearest patients.It is a thoroughly planned activity for keeping alive their self dignity, self-respect and hope of good living by not highly disturbing the life of other family members attached to bedridden patient.
In case of my mother the one thing that was preferred and it was constantly maintained her state of Independence so that she ever not think her self as burden for other family members because before her sickness all family of healthy people were dependent on her in all household and social matters.
In her first four and half-year of sickness she had taken charge of her house where she manged her home activity’s as such with the help of her attendants.We always preferred to arrange her arrangement as backups and she enjoyed her life in this dependent state that her family was still relying on her and she was important part of family as such. Physiotherapy many times a day helped a lot to keep her in active state and this is best procedure to avoid bed sores for patient like her having very lengthy span of bedridden state.Avoidance of high doses of medicines were also preferred as such kind of chemical dosing even under prescription of experienced neuro physicians sometimes produced adverse effects in her fragile body.
Last year of her sickness was not as successful as her diseases were showing last signs of sickness like random memory loss, difficult to sit for longer periods, no control on excretory matters , difficulty in swallowing food of her choices, recurrence of bed sores etc.
But in this stage we adopted different strategy of for her medicines, weaning styles and changing her life patterns against her normal living.But this year death angel didn’t allow us to keep her in our care any more(May Allah bless her soul and keep her in better way than this world).