Relationship and forgiveness
February 6, 2011 30 Comments
Forgiveness is an important vital social skill .In many culture social norms this human quality if possess by majority can be reason of happiness and success in life. Due to versatility in human nature, we are all time vulnerable to holding on to resentment, develop long grudges after any kind of dealing , facing problems that should be dealt with and over.
Simple rule of maintaining long-term relationship or to have successful friendships, both parties should be reasonable with one another and make every effort to meet halfway.Comprises, ignoring weakness of relations, covering genuine shortcomings of friend/ relative regarding their social status, physical retardation or any natural deficiency all comes in the context of forgiveness to enhance the quality of human relations in better way.
Forgiving is considered as mature thought so hardly found in young people but those social or family circles that have less gap between elders and younger generation , can smoothly transfer this mature habit to young minds which would surely help them to grow in docile and friendly atmosphere of giving goodness and forgiving others.
It is not necessary that if forgiving is priority of one individual than most people will be forgiving others with the same intensity in return.Sometimes result can be opposite of one’s responses and no proper justification is found for such human insensitivity. As difficult as it may seem, it is better for mental, physical, and emotional health to talk about thoughts and feelings covering negative and positive human emotions. It could be a serious matter or it might be a simple misunderstanding, but both parties should know where the other stands.
There are a lot of decent human gestures that can be practiced while handling aggressive, ill-mannered and abusive nature person found in our circle of social acquaintance.
- Silent treatment.
- Ignoring the presence of cruel people in our near surrounding.
- Negotiations where one feel that it can play an effective role.
- Avoid relations who can’t get rid of their torturous and greed nature to create disturbance for people.
- Looking for elderly guidance and snubbing.
- Boycotting of crisis creating person for some period .
Parents are best guide for any child in developing this habit to young minds and it is seen that couples who harshly treat their servants and less privileged blood relations, there are high chances that rudeness and arrogance become part of young minds which would commonly show its practical demonstration first to their parents too.
Nobody is perfect but building of strong relations with community, family and social circles are unmatched and extremely worth human quality .It can’t be substituted with any kind of wealth or status quo complexes that generate hollow living crystal style which when broken divided into thousands pieces .So rigid and shrewd behaviors badly damage the smooth growth of human confidence and feelings which can reshape into many distorted forms if not handled with care and mature thoughts.
There are another risk that situation might be different if the offending party sees no need to seek forgiveness, but at the same time harboring resentment indefinitely will create stir in inner peace of any individual and groups. If the offender does not apologize for the wrong committed, the decision of ceasing the relationship and friendship can be applied, depending on the severity of the offense. Attitude of humbleness attributes a lot of producing friction less environment in any culture.
It is also very interesting feature of human relation that we always tend to hurt or shaken by someone who is closest to us.
Parents are usually neglected by their dear children,.Wives are cheated by their one and only husband at that time when they have lost all energy on building his life and carrier and same can be vice versa.Sisters are dodged by brothers on the matters of inheritance,Close friend can be reason of emotional setback or employer is fooled by most trusted employee who once raises the status of his worker on the basis of his/her performance and honesty.In all above mentioned relations forgiveness is best tool to mend or build the durable and long-lasting human relations.